2012-05-20 The What, Why, and How of Life

“What” – Life has a purpose – The most fundamental question we ask in life is, “What’s my purpose?” Even if you don’t ask it overtly, your heart is searching for the reason in subconscious ways. I’ve heard believers say that it’s to glorify God. I’m not sure what that actually means. I’ve also heard things like loving God, serving God, and worshiping God. That list is often distilled down to going to church on Sunday. The more advanced version is inviting others to do the same (evangelism). And, perhaps the highest version of this formula is to start a church. So the purpose of life is going to church, inviting others to church or starting a church. OK, I’m not excited either!

I want to suggest two principles that will enable your personal life purpose to show itself.

  1. Dreams do come true.
  2. It happens by flowing with the desires of your heart. God wrote them there.

Most of us come from a tradition wherein the only worthwhile purpose in life is God’s will, and that the way we relate to God’s will is to find out what it is and obey it. But purpose, passion, and spiritual maturity are never defined by obedience alone. Servants don’t have a purpose; they just satisfy the desires of another. Kings, on the other hand, look for their life’s purpose in the desires of their own heart. They find the overlap between their heart’s desires and the desires of God’s heart. They position themselves with God and over their circumstances. Servants position themselves under God and under their circumstances.

I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. 16 You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit — fruit that will last. Then the Father will give you whatever you ask in my name. 17 This is my command: Love each other. John 15:15-17 NIV

…the Lord your God will set you high above all the nations on earth. Deut 28:1 NIV

and God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus Eph 2:6 NIV

Why? – People in general, and Christians in particular, have a huge resistance to believing that their “dreams can come true.” The reason is too much internal focus – The kingdom is built by people willing to dream, work toward their goals and receive promotion and prosperity. We are ambassadors of the King and doing exploits that bless nations, cultures, cities and people is “normal.” We, and our business initiatives add “value” at many levels. God wants to make your name great! (Gen 12:2-3)

Servants pride themselves in being void of purpose and initiative. To change that dynamic, our hearts need a reason why life or God or we would want our dreams to come true. It just sounds too good to be true, yet it is exactly the recipe for building the Kingdom. Here’s why:

God wrote His desires in your heart. They show up in terms of your passion and dreams. He designed you specifically for a great purpose in the Kingdom. This is “good news.” In fact, it’s so good that your heart won’t believe it until it understands the “why.” It’s because that’s how God chose to relate to us in maturity. He can be your school master and you can be the servant until you mature, but He wants you to accept his request for friendship as a King. He wants your heart to work with Him, not for Him. He wants you to dream and create and initiate. He’s not afraid of a few mistakes.

So now that you know the “why,” give your heart permission to dare and dream and desire and create and have a ball. That’s just the way the Kingdom works. It’s fun!

How – OK, I got the general idea: find the desires of my heart, get a confirmation with the Father’s heart and go for it. But, I’m not sure what that is. “How” is all about having your mind, your heart and God’s heart on the same page… aligned, integrated, holistic, single-minded. It’s getting that dream defined and working on it and seeing fruit from it. It’s building a bridge between your dream, your mind, your heart, your vocation and your cash flow. Everything gets connected and directed toward your and God’s personal dream. That when His power starts to work… in us… to make dreams come true… immeasurably beyond all we can ask or imagine. It’s amazing!

Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us. Eph 3:20 NIV

I’ve written, taught, shared, taped and preached this concept for a decade now. Here’s what I’ve learned.

  1. Not everyone is ready, so we just work with people who want to pursue their dream. It’s OK to be a servant until you’re ripe. I stopped trying to pick unripe fruit. There’s way too much ripe fruit and willing hearts anyway.
  2. Discipleship has always been relational. We all need someone to take us by the hand and show us how. Sermons have never been enough to effect change in hearts or behavior or dreams. Yes, we can “ask whatsoever” to make dreams come true, but the same passage suggests we love each other for a reason (Jn 15:15-17). We all need the help and encouragement at a heart level.
  3. We have the information base covered in Releasing Kings, Desire to Destiny, our conferences, and in the 400 newsletters. All that stuff is good. But, the final ingredient that we all need is a friend to show us how… how to dream, how good it feels when the dream comes true, how much fun the whole process is, and how to prosper.
  4. Lastly, every dream is a stretch. It’s always a step of faith; a calculated risk. Instead of letting fear control and defeat us, we let it motivate us to discern our path forward. We are “disciplined” to count the cost with wisdom, to seek the counsel of others, and to consider the options. But, in the end, it’s just God and me and deciding to go for it with the encouragement of those who love me. Give yourself permission to define your dream and make a wise decision. Others can encourage you and show you the what, why and how. No one else can do it for you.

For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline. 2 Tim 1:7 NIV

So here’s my suggestion – Get your dream in writing and start making it happen. How? We’ve developed a heart plan and a network of coaches to help. You are welcome to “self-help” through this process. I’ve just found it to be much more effective and faster with a coach who is practical and prophetic. If you can articulate your dream, the rest of us can help you make it happen.

Here are a couple of resources to get you started.

The Heart Plan introduction

The Father’s Coaching Heart …has testimonies and options.

PS: our updated store page is on the way. In the meantime, you can call me 509-308-6873.

We’re Dancing

John & Sue

Desire to Destiny is available now at our store along with reviews. Not sure what your dream is? This book will help you pull the curtain back on your future.

Newsletter – If your newsletter comes incomplete (filtered), you can always catch the latest version in our archive along with 200 others. 1800+ people from around the world get Kingly encouragement from our weekly newsletter. Invite a friend to subscribe – they will be blessed.

How to Start a Small Group – Kings are increasingly getting involved in Bible study or mentoring groups to facilitate their “Release.” Here are some helpful suggestions www.Releasing-Kings.com/Starting-a-Group.html. We’ve also updated our Vision Brochure with graphics to show how to become a King and how you can help Release Kings. Lastly we’ve created a guideline to help you take your dream to the next level by considering the elements of a business plan. See Write Your Business Plan and a Free Management Library for many other helpful resources.

French Translation – Releasing Kings is available in French. In France and other French speaking nations, copies can be obtained from Librairie Chretienne CLC. The Title in French is “Libération des Rois pour le ministère dans le monde du travail”. Cees Bakker and Support Ministries in the Netherlands can be contacted for Releasing Kings conferences in France and The Netherlands.

Other language websites –

The Netherlands http://www.modernekoningen.nl
Ukraine http://releasingkingsua.com/
Poland http://desiretodestiny.pl/en and http://www.releasingkingspl.com/ Contact Maria Lalik

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PS: I want to recommend some follow-up reading.

Who is God by Harold Eberle provides the best explanation of a more relational view of God. It’s must reading that connects our perception of God with everyday life.

Releasing Kings for Ministry in the Marketplace takes that foundation into marketplace ministry and the entrepreneurial nature of Kings. Fruit in the marketplace naturally springs out of sound doctrine.

Desire to Destiny – Takes the foundation and marketplace ministry and puts them in the context of seven practical keys or stages of growth you can apply in your own life.

You’re invited into the vision to release Kings; communicate the message, make the money, and do the mission.

  1. The Message – Our first goal is to get the Releasing Kings message into the hands of the messengers that will carry it… do it, preach it, teach it, example it.
  2. The Money – The second goal is to help Kings break out of poverty by networking them with practical opportunities to prosper. We want to introduce them to the right people, the right opportunity, and the right financial approach.
  3. The Mission – Network Kings with opportunities to mix business and missions. Accomplish the great commission through the marketplace and occupy the Seven mountains of: business, media, arts & entertainment, education, family and government in addition to the church. See video #1 and video #2

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

Daniel Ghinn May 20, 2012 at 10:26 pm

John, thank you for this excellent post. It’s exactly what I sense God is saying to the church in the marketplace, right now. I’m sure it is no coincidence that just a few hours before I read your update, I published an article on the topic of how to pursue your marketplace dream (http://churchtransformed.org/by-faith-and-works/).

Your piece completes the picture and I will be sharing it with our group of marketplace ministers that meets in Maidstone, UK.

Thank you for your ongoing updates and pioneering work in this area.


Theresa Croft May 22, 2012 at 7:44 pm

Wow. And wow again.
Thank you John for this post and specific steps we can all take.
I so appreciate your wisdom and spirit of excellence as you follow the DNA God gave you to release KINGS into the marketplace.

God told me that I have nothing for which to give if I don’t get it first from Him.

He gave me the desire in my heart to help people spread their message online to the nations. What I love to see John is how HE answers the cry of my heart for the revelation and wisdom to help others.
Only God can break down complex strategies and make them clear.
I thank Him for the mastermind business strategies and bringing the right connections to carry out the dream to it’s full capacity.

I agree though, we do need mentors and I thank God for showing me WHO to
trust and learn from.

You are leading the way when it comes to Kingdom business!

I am looking forward to reading your books!

Theresa Croft


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